Life Does Not Treat You. You Treat Life.

From a student of life to an observer and creator of your own reality

I often ask people a simple, seemingly innocent question:

“Hello dear, tell me, how is life treating you?”

It is a trick question.

Their answer tells me exactly where they are on the path of consciousness and awareness.

Recently, someone replied:

“Yes, I truly believe that every day teaches us something new, and our journey of learning should never come to an end.”

It sounds wise. It sounds humble. But it reveals a very old belief:

• that life is doing something to you,
• that you are a student and life is the teacher,
• that the main action is “out there” and you are mainly “in here”, reacting.

From the perspective of higher awareness, the correct answer is something else entirely:

Life does not treat me. I treat life.

 

1. Student of Life or Observer of Life?

The phrase “life is teaching me” keeps you in the identity of a student:

• Life = the big school.
• You = the small child, sitting in the classroom.
• Events = lessons the teacher gives you.

There is some truth in that image, but it is also a trap.

At a deeper level, you are not here primarily as a student. You are here as an observer – as consciousness itself.

You are not standing in front of a blackboard taking notes. You are watching a canvas you are painting, a movie you are projecting from within.

So when someone asks:

“How is life treating you?”

The answer from consciousness is:

“Life is not treating me.
I am observing how I am treating life through my vibration and my choices.”

 

2. Life Is a Mirror of Your Vibration, Not a School with a Teacher

In earlier blogs, I explained that:

• You are constantly emitting something into the universe:
  • thoughts,
  • feelings,
  • beliefs,
  • intentions.
• This emission is your vibrational level.
• What you call “my life” is:
  • that vibration interacting with reality,
  • then reflecting back to you as:
    • people you meet,
    • situations you face,
    • patterns that repeat.

So life is not a neutral teacher handing out random lessons. Life is a mirror

• what you believe about yourself,
• what you expect from others,
• what you fear and what you desire,
• where your awareness is asleep,
• and where it is awake.

When something “teaches” you, it is not because life decided to teach you. It is because your own vibration finally became visible enough on the canvas that you could no longer ignore it.

3. What Does “I Treat Life” Actually Mean?

At first, the phrase “I treat life” sounds strange. We are used to saying:

• “Life is hard.”
• “Life is unfair.”
• “Life is teaching me a lesson.”

These sentences all assume:

• Life is an external force.
• You are being acted upon.
• You are mainly in the role of victim or student.

Now turn it around:

“Life does not treat me.
I treat life with my:

• attention,
• interpretation,
• emotional response,
• and level of awareness.

In every situation, you:

• decide what to focus on,
• decide what story to tell yourself about it,
• decide how deeply to feel it,
• decide whether to repeat an old pattern or choose differently.

That is how you “treat” life:

• with gratitude or resentment,
• with curiosity or judgment,
• with victimhood or authorship.

4. You Are a Manifestation Observing Your Own Creation

Here is the deeper point that most spiritual talk still avoids:

You are not just in the universe. You are a manifestation of the universe, observing the universe that you are helping to create.

Through:

• your consciousness,
• your awareness,
• your vibration,

You are constantly:

• projecting expectations,
• attracting certain experiences,
• filtering what you notice,
• and giving events their meaning.

Then you look at the canvas and say:

• “Life did this.”
• “Life treated me like that.”

From the outside, it looks like life is treating you. From the inside, if you are honest, you see:

“I am watching how my own vibration is painting reality in front of me. Life is my mirror, not my master.”

💡 FACT: Psychology and neuroscience show that our beliefs and emotional states shape what we notice and how we interpret events. Over time, this creates self‑reinforcing patterns in relationships, health, and work. In simple terms, our inner state helps “select” the outer world we live in – a scientific echo of the idea that our vibration creates the reality we observe.

5. How to Use This Trick Question in Your Own Life

The next time someone asks you:

“How is life treating you?”

Pause and notice your first instinct.

If you answer:

• “Life is hard right now.”
• “Life is teaching me tough lessons.”
• “Life is unfair.”

You are still placing your power:

• outside yourself,
• in the hands of life, fate, God, the system, and other people.

Try instead to answer from awareness:

“Life is not treating me. I am treating life. And right now, I am learning to treat it with more awareness, more responsibility, and a different vibration.”

That one sentence moves you:

• from victim to author,
• from student to observer,
• from asking “why me?” to asking “what am I emitting?”

 

6. Final Thought: Stop Asking How Life Treats You

The journey of consciousness is not about collecting more “life lessons” like badges on a uniform.

It is about realizing:

You are awareness itself, watching the universe you co‑create, and every so‑called lesson is your own vibration made visible.

So the next time someone asks:

“How is life treating you?”

remember the answer that comes from higher awareness:

Life does not treat me. I treat life.
And what I see is how my own consciousness is painting reality in front of me.

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